By: Amber Fry
Spanking has been a hot topic in the media ever since NFL star Adrian Peterson received probation for child abuse. In November of 2014 Peterson was suspended from the Minnesota Vikings for the rest of the season for child abuse. His defense was that he was only trying to discipline his child, like most parents.
Peterson told CNN: “My goal is always to teach my son right from wrong and that’s what I tried to do that day, I accept the fact that people feel very strongly about this issue and what they think about my conduct. Regardless of what others think, however, I love my son very much and I will continue to try to become a better father and person.” Peterson has expressed to everyone that he is not a perfect parent but he is not a child abuser.
There is one question that everyone has always asked: “Is spanking beneficial in helping children correct their behavior?” Spanking should not be the first act of discipline, but it should be an option. Kids are different and are motivated by different levels of discipline. With some kids, you can just look at them and they will stop whatever they are doing. With other kids, you have to raise your voice to make your point. And with some kids, you’ve got to lay hands on them, but in a loving way.
Kids should know what the expectations are. For example, if a child was told “I want you to turn the television off and do your homework” and don’t do it. But if I didn’t have that conversation with you, then it is wrong for me to discipline you. Parents have to have the conversation and then reinforce it.
Spanking is not a bad thing. Parents will have better behaved children if they know their expectations and are consistent with discipline. Parents should not have to spank their children because children naturally like to please their parents and if the parents are firm and give them the attention that they need, the bad behavior will cease.